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by helenbonnick | May 7, 2015 · 1:58 pm

Thinking about Education

Something a bit different for a change today inspired by a compilation of essays on education, The Connected School from ncb.

If you are put off by a blog about schools, by all means look away now; but having been involved in direct work with families in schools for over 17 years, this is something that I feel strongly about; and of course children spend a huge proportion of their lives within the school gates. We need to get this right if we are to foster healthy, happy learners. For those anxious for a link with child to parent violence here, I would draw attention to the way that many children have been found to bottle up their stress at school, taking it out on parents once they reach the “safe” confines of home. Continue reading →

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by helenbonnick | May 1, 2015 · 2:46 pm

Non Violent Resistance

Non-Violent Resistance, as a response to child to parent violence, has attracted considerable attention and support among the adoption community, so I was pleased to come across this blog from Frogotter, outlining their experience of attending an NVR course with Peter Jakob.

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We were pretty excited about attending a course on Non Violent Resistance. It was run by Adoption UK and had Peter Jakob speaking. Violence has become our biggest concern with the boys. Not really because they’re getting worse, if anything they are getting better at handling their impulses. But, as they get larger and stronger, any violence at all starts to be a bit worrying. So, a day course about dealing with aggression without getting aggressive sounded perfect.
I’d already read a book about it, but I was concerned that it seemed aimed at parents of older children, and wasn’t entire applicable to us, yet.
On the other hand, some of the ideas sounded different to things I’ve read in other books, and that was rather exciting!
So, we turned up hopeful, but not expecting much.
The first thing I always look for from an expert is what they…

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by helenbonnick | April 27, 2015 · 7:30 pm

Western Australia examines the problem of children’s violence in the home

A report from Women’s Health and Family Services received attention in the Australian media this month. The Making of Good Men and Women (Responding to Youth Violence in the Home and its harmful impacts on families and communities in Western Australia) examines the problem of violence from children towards adults and other family members, and contains data from both Western Australia, where the report is based, and comparative figures from the state of Victoria, where services have been established for a number of years. Continue reading →

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by helenbonnick | April 23, 2015 · 8:41 am

The value of student research in child to parent violence

One of the things that gives me hope for the growing awareness within mainstream services of the existence and issues around children’s violence to parents, is the growing numbers of students undertaking research as part of their training. Whether it is at first degree level, Masters, PhD or as a Professional Doctorate – across social work youth services, counselling, the police and even journalism – I am now aware of many pieces of research that are either in proposal stage, in progress, or recently completed in Britain alone. While the body of literature is now significantly growing, some of the most interesting pieces in the past have come via this route (in my opinion) and of course then have an immediate relevance and input to the work on the ground. I hope to offer links to completed work where possible, but here’s a taster in the meantime! Continue reading →

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by helenbonnick | April 13, 2015 · 2:28 pm

Child to parent violence and abuse: a legal question

In March 2013, the UK government extended the definition of domestic violence and abuse, to include coercive control and to capture those affected by peer teen abuse in the 16 and 17 year old age group; a response to growing evidence of the prevalence of abuse in that group. Amid the celebration at the time, there was discussion about how this would impact those working in the field of child to parent abuse. Alongside a positive response to the recognition that violence and abuse takes place in relationships outside of those most widely recognised, concerns were raised about the importance of maintaining a safeguarding mindset when working in this field. Continue reading →

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Tagged as Adolescent to parent violence and abuse, child to parent abuse, coercive control, domestic violence and abuse, Serious Crimes Act

by helenbonnick | April 7, 2015 · 7:19 pm

Support for adoptive families experiencing violence and abuse from children

The publication last April of the research report: Beyond the Adoption Order highlighted the urgent need within the adoption community for support around the issue of children’s violence to parents, and so I have been interested to follow how this is developing at both the large scale organisational, and more intimate networking, levels. Many adoption agencies offer training around the issue, specifically in Non Violent Resistance (NVR) a theory and technique first developed for this group by Haim Omer. Continue reading →

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Tagged as Adoption UK, BAAF, Beyond the Adoption Order, Child to parent violence, children's violence to parents, Dr Peter Jakob, Hampton Trust, non-violent resistance, NVR, PAC-UK, Parenting Adopted Teens, POTATO group, Shila Desai, The Adoption Social, The Open Nest

by helenbonnick | April 1, 2015 · 9:26 am

Child to Parent Violence: Job Opportunity in London

DVIP currently have a vacancy for a part-time Young People’s Service Practitioner (female only), working across London.

The service offers support and interventions to young people using abuse alongside a parallel support service for parents and partners.

You will primarily work with parents experiencing young people’s abuse to help re-establish safe boundaries within the home and to develop improved family interactions. You will also work with young people.

There are also opportunities for sessional work and volunteering. Full details can be found on the DVIP website.

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by helenbonnick | March 31, 2015 · 4:52 pm

Information Guide: Going Public

We are pleased to announce that the Information Guide: Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse received Ministerial sign off at the end of last week, and is now a publicly available document on the Government website.

As this is a “live document” there is room to update it continually as more recent information becomes available. Indeed a number of typos and omissions have already been spotted and will be corrected as soon as is possible. Inevitably there will be some who feel the guidance is not as comprehensive as they had hoped for their own situation; but we believe this is a really important start in officially recognising adolescent to parent violence and abuse as a serious issue affecting many families, and in laying a practice foundation on which to build. We hope that organisations and departments will now take this and run with it – and individualise it according to their own knowledge base, skill sets, and areas of practice.

There will shortly be a report on the Manchester launch event on the Oxford APV website. Do take a look at this site, which has further information about the Oxford research project.

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by helenbonnick | March 25, 2015 · 4:34 pm

Information Guide: Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse

The second of two launch days for the Interim Information Guide: Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse took place in London on Monday. (The first was in Manchester last week.) Despite the short notice, brought about by looming general election clogging up the works of the Home Office, there was an excited and positive response both days from the 100+ delegates from across management, commissioning and frontline services. Continue reading →

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by helenbonnick | March 23, 2015 · 12:14 am

Parenting a Violent Child: book review

What do you do if you are a parent experiencing violence and abuse from your child but there is no help available where you live? So many parents speak of a lack of understanding from non-specialists, and regular parenting groups that can make the situation worse rather than better. Up until now the only recourse might have been to online message boards, helplines or friends. Now there is a “virtual group” in the shape of a step-by-step guide to understanding behaviours that can hinder or help the restoration of a healthy family relationship. Continue reading →

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Tagged as attachment, Child to parent violence, Islay Downey, Kim Furnish, My Violent Child, Parenting a violent child, trauma

HOLES IN THE WALL

Thinking about Education

Non Violent Resistance

Western Australia examines the problem of children’s violence in the home

The value of student research in child to parent violence

Child to parent violence and abuse: a legal question

Child to Parent Violence: Job Opportunity in London

Information Guide: Going Public

Information Guide: Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse

Parenting a Violent Child: book review

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