A number of people have asked me recently for links to the increasing number of audio and video resources, which can be of use in training or for personal learning for those interested in learning more about child to parent violence and abuse; and so I have tried to bring them together on this page. The list is, of course, not exhaustive. They span quite a range, from fiction, through discussion, to specific educational resources. Rather than divide them into groups – a difficult task as there is oftentimes an overlap – I have arranged them by date, and will continue to add to the list as I come across new items. I have deliberately excluded clips from shouty, sensationalising TV programmes – just because – but these are also available online. Please note that some recordings are only available for a short length of time, and may have gone past their date before I have time to remove them.
NVR podcast #21, Impulse and Intent (2021) Peter Jakob and Rachael Aylmer discuss and reflect on the issues of impulse and intent in child to parent violence. (45 minutes)
999, What’s Your Emergency? (2021) (series 3, episode 4) In this episode of the Channel 4 series officers meet a number of families experiencing child to parent violence. Some of the press reviewing this episode went with the idea that children just needed stronger discipline, but we see the change in attitude in the police as more information comes to light, and a recognition of the parent-child bond which makes it difficult for parents to turn their back on their child, however violent or abusive they might be. (47 minutes)
Understanding and Responding to Child to Parent Violence. (2021) A webinar from Creative Education, presented by Nikki Rutter. Nikki shares her research to date on child to parent violence including a risk assessment model for schools, helpful strategies for parents, and a toolkit for non-specialists to aid understanding and support. (38 minutes) You will need to register to access the webinar, but it is part of the free to access offer.
Dr Vicky Baker: Exploring young people’s accounts of using violence and abuse towards parents. (2021) A webinar presented by the Connect Centre (University of Central Lancashire). Vicky outlines the findings of her recent PhD study into this subject.
Nikki Rutter: Children who attack their parents (May 2021) OnRecord discussion. Nikki is undertaking a PhD at Durham with families experiencing abuse from their 4 – 11 year old children. She has particular knowledge of the additional issues where children are neuro-divergent. A thoughtful and considered look at the difficulties in finding support, the uniqueness of each family’s experience, and the inappropriateness of standard parenting groups for these families.
Learning the Lessons: Fatal Adult Child to Parent Abuse, A DAHA webinar (March 2021), presented by Thien Trang Nguyen Phan. There is some debate as to whether patricide and child to parent violence are separate issues, but the lessons to be learnt are certainly similar. The slides for this presentation can also be viewed here.
Adolescents who turn homes into war zones (2020) Law Report Podcast from Australia interviewing Dr Kate Fitz-Gibbon. Examines the realities of adolescent family violence and asks whether legal and social responses are adequate. (30 minutes) (References Hon. Eugene Hyman and the Santa Clara Juvenile and family Violence Court – more info here.)
Adolescent Domestic Battery: Improving Community Based Responses for Youth Experiencing Family Conflict (2020) Recording of a webinar presented by Libby Sanders of Northeast DuPage, Illinois, Family and Youth Services. Looks at problems of the current response and underlines the importance of distinguishing responses for adults and those for juveniles. Also introduces the Adolescent Domestic Battery Typology Tool. (1 hour 10 minutes)
Rock Pool Conversation (2020) Helen Bonnick in conversation with Sue Penna, Chief Creative Officer of Rock Pool Life, recorded on September 9th. (1 hour)
FBS Chat (2020) The group Family Based Solutions have a weekly conversation with different practitioners around the country. In this episode they chatted to me about my website and how I became involved in the work; we discussed a visit to Costa in 2012; and they ambushed me with a suggestion of a national conference. (1 hour)
Violence against grandparents (2020) Another appearance from Amanda Holt, this time on Badass Women’s Hour on Talk Radio in June. Listen from 21.30
Violence against grandparents (2020) Woman’s Hour’s Jane Garvey interviewed Amanda Holt and Lucy Peake about the issue of violence and abuse to grandparents, particularly those offering kinship care. (11 minutes)
Raising Teens: LOCKDOWN Domestic Abuse (2020) A whole episode of Raising Teens, on BBC Radio Sussex, given over to domestic abuse, including child to parent violence and abuse, and looking at the impact of lockdown on family relationships. Contributions from Jane Griffiths of CAPA UK, as well as the police and a counsellor working for RELATE. (55 minutes)
Let’s Talk About … (2020) During lockdown, CEL&T are producing a weekly webchat with interviews from people campaigning about or working with families where there is childhood challenging violent or aggressive behaviour (CCVAB).
Child to Parent Violence (2020) A conversation between presenter Ryan Tubridy, and Alan Quinn of Le Cheile Mentoring on RTE Radio 1 on May 20th. Ryan introduces the segment as a follow up to earlier discussions about domestic abuse and about parenting, aiming to challenge misconceptions and to learn more about this issue. Great introduction to the issue and the work of Le Cheile. (12 minutes)
Investigating experience of violence towards grandparents in a kinship care context (2020) Podcast produced in lieu of a launch of the findings of a research project from Dr Amanda Holt. The podcast is found on the project website, which I would encourage you to view as a whole. Includes interviews with Dunston Patterson of YJB, John Simmonds from CoramBAAF and Lucy Peake from Grandparents Plus. (45 minutes)
Child to Parent Violence and Aggression (2020) Two x 1 hour videos, recorded last year (prior to lockdown) from Adopt4Life, Ontario’s Association for kin, customary care, and adoptive parents and caregivers. Interviews and presentations from Julie Selwyn, Al Coates and Helen Bonnick, exploring understanding of the issue and introducing strategies for families affected.
Family Based Solutions (2020) Podcast from The Good, The Bad and the Ugly. Joe Lettieri talking about the work of Family Based Solutions: how the organisation came about, the solution focused approach, fundraising efforts, and working with the police. (one hour)
Starting with the young person: Reframing how we understand and respond earlier to adolescent violence in the home. (2020) The Centre for Excellence in Child and Family Welfare, and Family Safety Victoria (FSV), recently co-hosted a symposium in Victoria, Australia, that brought together peak bodies, sector leaders, academics and government stakeholders to better understand the nature of this issue and how we can respond earlier to support young people and families. A number of the presentations from this symposium on March 13th 2020 have been made available on YouTube.
When teens abuse parents (2019) A 6 minute piece from Illinois about a family’s experience of CPV and the effect on the family.
Child to Parent Violence (2019) A Community Care Inform “Learn on the go” podcast. Jo Silman interviews Jane Griffiths of Capauk and me about recognising CPVA, and working with families affected. (33 minutes) (also here)
Adolescents who turn homes into war zones (2019) An ABC podcast broadcast in October this year. Guests include ‘Heather” (mother), Kate Fitz-Gibbon, Jo Howard and The Honourable Eugene Hyman (28 minutes)
The Adoption and Fostering Podcast, episode 72 (2019) Al Coates and Scott Casson-Rennie asked me back to talk about CPVA and my book. (45 minutes)
Woman’s Hour Parenting podcast: Children who attack their parents (2019) Jenni Murray talks to Emma Glaseby, BBC correspondent, about the apparent rise in the number of parents experiencing violence and abuse from their teens. (9 minutes)
The Premier News Article (2019) Al Coates gets a little bit wound up about an article that appeared on the Premier website in response to a BBC report about an apparent rise in the number of parents experiencing violence from their children. I’ve added this because I think it is important to recognise how angry, frustrated and despairing people feel about the judgement and laziness of reports such as this.
The Unofficial Guide to Therapeutic Parenting, The Teen Years (2019) Sally Donovan and I sat down to talk about her most recent book. (52 minutes)
Two-thirds of adopters ‘experience violence or aggression from their child’ (2019) A film made for Channel 4 about the difficulties faced by parents in accessing help when adopting children who have experienced trauma. Jackie Long talks to a parent, and then asks Victoria Prentis, MP, a member of the APPG on Adoption and Permanence, about the government’s commitment to providing support. (12 minutes)
Contextual Safeguarding (2019) Not strictly about CPV, but this TEDx talk from Carlene Firmin, founder of the Contextual Safeguarding Network, outlines why a different approach is needed in child protection if we are to properly keep children and young people safe. Much of this learning is directly applicable to the way we work with families affected by CPV and the support we offer. (15 minutes)
Child Parent Abuse Support Group (2019) An interview on Radio Sheppey with Becky Creavin who has set up a weekly support group for parents because she could not find any other help locally. She talks about the experience of violence, and the importance of support to prevent families breaking up. (3 minutes)
The Great North ACE Conference (2019) In this edition of the Adoption and Fostering Podcast, we hear a recording of a presentation by Al Coates about supporting families that live with Childhood Challenging, violent and aggressive behaviour, from the conference which took place in April for the ACE Network North-East.
Partnership Projects YouTube Channel (2019) A new resource, launched in February 2019, to which more videos will be added over time. The first video is of a group discussion, about starting to practice NVR.
What is it like to fear your own child? (2018) A Today in Focus podcast from the Guardian, first broadcast on December 10th, as a follow up to an article in the Observer on the previous weekend. A parent speaks about her experience of being abused by her son from a very young age; her gradual recognition that things were not normal, and her battle to obtain help.
Les converses d’en Ramoneda (2018) A Catalan podcast featuring an interview with psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, Josep Moya, speaking about child to parent violence. He makes links with the pressures of consumerism within the family, and the use of technology (games, phones) as well as wider expressions of violence – such as that in schools.
‘I feel really bad when I hurt my mum’ (2018) Another film from Noel Philips for the Victoria Derbyshire Show, this time looking at the difficulties in accessing support for children with PDA, who can become violent when stressed or anxious. Interviews include the parents, the children themselves and Norman Lamb, former Care Minister, who suggests we are “abandoning families to try to cope on their own with extraordinarily complex circumstances.” (12 minutes)
What is NVR? (2018) Haim Omer introduces the rationale and concept of Non Violent Resistance in this 40 minute YouTube video. NVR was developed in recognition of the need of parents (and teachers) for support if they are to help the children in their care, and to fill a gap in provision where children are violent and destructive towards themselves or others.
PAARS Solution Focused Practice (2018) The first of PAARS Q and A Thursday video sessions. Joe talks about what they do to help families – while cooking scrambled eggs.
Anticiparse a la violencia filio parental (2018) Ten minute segment from Radio Valencia (in Spanish) “Miriam Molina, psychologist at Fundación Amigó, participates in Cadena Ser Valencia to explain our method of intervention in cases of filio-parental violence and the prevention and intervention projects that we carry out.”
Fundacion Amigo (2018) A 2 minute educational film from this Spanish organisation, introducing the phenomenon of child to parent violence, and explaining some of their work. (Spanish language)
Adolescent Family Violence (2018) Film of the launch of the Monash University “Investigating Adolescent Family Violence in Victoria: Understanding experiences and practitioner perspectives” research report; and of the International Network Addressing Filial Violence, August 2018. The film is an hour and three quarters long. The first half hour offers introductions and reflection on the complexities of the issue of adolescent family violence. There is then around half an hour when the panel members introduce themselves and develop the discussion further. In the final 40 minutes there are questions and comments from the audience. A lot of discussion about whether a criminal justice response is the right way to go, and what other sorts of intervention might be appropriate.
Dealing with Aggression (2018) Part of the Bringing Up Britain series on BBC radio 4 with Mariella Frostrup. (45 minutes) Discussion with Consultant Child Psychologist, Laverne Antrobus from the Tavistock Clinic, radio presenter and author Tim Samuels, Seamus Oates from the TBAP Multi-Academy trust of alternative provision schools, Dr Debra Spencer, Psychologist at the University of Cambridge, and Jane Griffiths from Break4Change. Causes, what it feels like, what you can do.
Six in 10 families living with child to parent violence experience daily attacks (2018) A clip from the ITV news story reporting on the findings of the CPVA survey by Al Coates and Wendy Thorley. Includes interviews with parents, Al Coates and Dr Stephen Westgarth, a child psychiatrist. Also highlights the recommendations from the final report. (5 and a half minutes)
The Children Confused by Love (2018) A 15 minute clip film made for the Victoria Derbyshire show, first broadcast May 10th 2018. Reporter Chris Hemmings investigates the impact of Attachment issues for children within the adoption system, and problems in accessing appropriate help and support.
“This week I got a black eye from my 9-year-old son” (2018) A mother’s email to the Ryan Tubridy show on RTE Radio 1.
Let’s Talk About Teenage Violence: Part 2 (2018) A very short animation from the Hindustan Times expressing how it feels to be a parent experiencing violence from a teenage son, with link to original article.
Treating Childhood Trauma (2018) 14 minute piece from 60 Minutes programme, Oprah Winfrey reports on how trauma plays a role in childhood development and what new methods are being used to help kids who have experienced it.
Parliament TV (2018) Coverage of the debate on child to parent violence in Westminster Hall on February 21st.
You are my child (2018) A Youtube clip of a song “for the parents of sons and daughters with autism and learning disabilities who are locked away in psychiatric hospitals.” A reminder of the continuing love of parents though their child cannot live at home with them.
Sharp rise in parents being abused by their violent children (2017) A 3 minute clip from ITV London news, first shown 30th November, featuring Joe Lettieri from PAARS.
“I’m scared of my own autistic child” (2017) Film by Noel Phillips for the Victoria Derbyshire Show, first shown on BBC2, October 30th 2017.
“It’s been an absolute nightmare”, family violence in kinship care (2017) From the Baptcare research report (Australia). One of the report’s authors and a number of kinship carers share their experiences.
Adoption Disruption. (2017) A podcast from Community Care Inform / Learn on the go. Interviews with Julie Selwyn and Elaine Dibben. More information, timings and full references available with the recording. (The link opens in iTunes Preview. Go to item 16)
Adoption: Families in Crisis (2017) A File on 4 investigation for the BBC about the challenges faced by adoptive families and the difficulties in accessing support.
Is it taboo to admit your disabled child hits you? (2017) An edition of BBC Woman’s Hour which considered the issues around caring for a child with disabilities. Interviews with a number of parents, including Rosie Noble of Contact a family, and Yvonne Newbold who has written a handbook for parents and created workshops for parents and practitioners, as well as blogging on this issue.
Safe Lives Spotlight #3: Young People and Domestic Abuse (2017) Over the course of two months, this Spotlight feature focussed on the experiences of young people affected by domestic violence, and the professionals supporting them. There are links to videos, blogs, podcasts and other writing and resources; including a number of the podcasts specifically addressing adolescent to parent violence and abuse.
Who’s in Charge? (2016) Short video in which practitioners talk about their experience of facilitating the Who’s in Charge? programme with families experiencing violence and abuse from their children; and the impact WinC? has for the families involved.
Adoption and Fostering Podcast (2016 onwards) Al Coates and Scott Casson-Rennie interview individuals from practice, research and policy. Episodes 2, 3, 5, 20, 21, 22, 26 and 35 are particularly concerned with child to parent violence, as well as a special edition with Sue Armstrong Brown in September 2017, and an episode about NVR (episode 47), but others also touch on it.
Passengers, Moving On, series 7 (2016) A short drama from Jimmy McGovern for the BBC, briefly exploring the secrecy and shame experienced by a mother abused by her son.
Our Story of Parental Abuse (2016) Short animation. A parent talks about her experience of abuse from her teenage daughter, and asks for support in her campaigning to get the law changed. (USA)
Does lack of truth telling destabilise a child’s journey? (2016) 13 minute video of a conference speech given by Helen Oakwater in Australia, examining why fostered and adopted children can seem to erupt into violence and abuse “for no apparent reason”.
The Children who hit their parents (2015) A short film made by BBC journalist and producer, Noel Philips, and shown first on the Victoria Derbyshire show in December 2015 as part of a feature on child to parent violence.
“I thought nothing of pulling a knife on my Dad” (2015) Short clip from the December 2015 Victoria Derbyshire show featuring child to parent violence. Ann Ramsden opens up about her own childhood experience.
Investigating Adolescent Violence towards Parents impact films (2015) Two short films in which Rachel Condry talks about the APVA project and listening to parents’ experiences.
Children attacking parents in West Midlands “shocking” (2015) Short film by Noel Phillips, on the BBC website includes interviews with a parent, young man and Yvonne Mosquito, West Midlands Deputy Police and Crimes Commissioner.
Beyond the Adoption Order (2015) Julie Selwyn presents a lecture, available here on YouTube, about her work and findings, for Cardiff University’s Children’s Social Care Research and Development Centre, in association with BAAF.
Para Todos La 2 – Debate: La Violencia filioparental (2014) Clip from a Spanish TV programme, two Clinical Psychologists debate and discuss the issues involved. (some subtitles)
Child to Parent Violence Definition and Prevalence (2014) Thirteen minute segment from the Sean O’Rourke Morning Show on RTE Radio 1. He speaks with Roisin O’Hara, who interviewed a parent experiencing child to parent violence, Declan Coogan of NUI Galway, and Alan Quinn of Le Cheile.
Use of Restorative Justice in CPV work (2014) Kate Iwi talks about the programme developed by Respect, working with both parents and young people.
Adolescent Violence in the Home (2014) A short animation from Kildonan Uniting Care, an Australian organisation which has invested significant time and resources in the issue of adolescent to parent violence. Particularly useful for work with parents.
My Violent Child (2014) Whole episode from the Channel 5 documentary series. Features a number of families and follows their experience of accessing help. The series attracted some criticism, and the shaming parents experience is reflected in the comment thread. Other clips and episodes also available on YouTube.
ReMoved (2014) A short film by Nathanael Matanick about the devastating emotional impact on children of living with domestic violence. Originally made to raise awareness in the training of foster parents. Also Remember my Story, ReMoved part 2, made in 2015.
Teens abusing parents ‘serious and often hidden issue’ (2014) Dave Howard interviews parents affected by child to parent violence, as well as Rachel Condry, and practitioners from Sunderland Impact Family Services, for an item on the BBC PM programme.
Child to Parent Violence: “a constant battle with no-one to turn to” (2013) Half hour Radio documentary from Nima Green on The Voice of Russia in London. Interviews with Rachel Condry (talking about findings of the Oxford APVA), Joe Lettieri, Karen Hunter and Ayse Adil from PAARS, and 2 families who received help from that service, plus DCI Simon Retford from Greater Manchester Police.
Teenagers and Domestic Violence (2013) An episode of the BBC flagship programme Woman’s Hour in November 2013 featured an interview with Professor Sue Bailey, consultant child and adolescent forensic psychiatrist, as well as Professor David Gadd from Manchester University and Ben Jamal from DVIP.
Victim Mother: I’ve created a monster (2013) Clip from the BBC Radio 4 Today programme from 27th April 2013. Testimony from mothers experiencing violence from their teenage children, one since very young childhood. Contrasting different backgrounds, but both finding it difficult to obtain help. Another shout out to PAARS.
In Cold Blood: Parental Abuse (2013) One of a series of docu-dramas from Singapore, 24 minutes long. This one features the story of a woman whose older son became abusive when she refused to give him everything he wanted.
A Home for Maisie (2013) Film about the effects of early trauma and the way violence plays out, affecting everyone around. A long film but worth it for the joy at the end!
Responding to Child to Parent Violence: Project launch (2013) Video of the official launch. Over an hour long, but useful for dipping in and out of, for detail of the project’s aims and the two intervention models being assessed. Details of timings here. Contains a short film, “Hope when I had none”, in which a parent talks about her experience of receiving support.
Parent Abuse in Hong Kong (2013) In this short video, Joey Chan calls for a comprehensive solution to the problem of parent abuse. A call to individuals to consider their behaviour.
Adolescent Domestic Violence (2013) Seventeen minute clip from the Life Matters programme on ABC Radio National (Australia) on February 18th discussing an upcoming conference, with interviews with Leanne Sinclair (Family Violence Program Manager, Legal Aid, Victoria) and Jo Howard (Manager of the Drug and Alcohol Program and Youth Services at Peninsula Heath, Victoria). Looks at possible reasons for an increase in violence, types of violence experienced, context and statistics, reluctance to contact police or CJS, possible responses, including elements of “Step Up” type programmes. (From 01.36 – 18.10)
Teenage Violence at Home (2013) A shorter clip from an ABC Radio National (Australia) programme on February 18th, focussing on the experience of violence.
Family Lives Webinar on Child to Parent Violence (2013) Presentations from Oliver Standing Policy and Projects Co-ordinator at Adfam, and Sara Hassell, a Family Co-ordinator with Family Lives. Oliver talks about a recent research project, and Sara discusses the work she does in a primary school with abused parents. The presentation is just under an hour and three quarters. (The first few moments are silent.) Includes links to documents mentioned and supplementary material.
The mysterious workings of the adolescent brain (2012) Cognitive neuroscientist, Sarah-Jayne Blakemore speaking at TEDGlobal 2012. Not so much about CPV but a really useful and interesting explanation of the workings of the teenage brain and the changes it undergoes at this stage life, giving hope for interventions.
Hertfordshire Practical Parenting CIC (2011) One of a series of three promotional videos, illustrating the services provided by this organisation. This one in particular gives a snapshot of the experience of one mother and daughter.
The relationship between mothers and sons (2011) An episode of Woman’s Hour with Jenni Murray, broadcast March 30th 2011 Does a special bond really exist and how does it change over time? (45 mins)
Therapeutic responses to families in crisis (2010) DVD from Oxleas NHS Foundation Trust, adapted from the documentary I Hate Mum, originally shown on BBC TV. The film is intended primarily for training and educational purposes and shows the systemic therapy approach used by the team with families.
Adolescent Abuse of Parents (2006) Mary McKenna is interviewed by Richard Aedy on ABC Radio National (Australia) about her work investigating adolescent to parent abuse. (14 minute clip starts at 00.50)
Dangerous Child (2001) Feature film, certificate 15, from Hearst Entertainment Ltd, tells the story of a woman who has left an abusive husband and now finds herself victim to her older son.