Around the country different bodies such as the Youth Offending Service, Domestic Violence agencies, or Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service may have developed a specialist approach for families in their area as the need became evident and they can be a good place to start. Often there will be individuals within an agency with specialist knowledge, offering understanding even where there is no bespoke service available.
NATIONAL SPECIALIST HELP
A number of organisations offer a national service. This may be specific to the family or young person’s situation, or may be available to all.
Capa First Response CIC A first response service, delivered by experienced professionals, Capa offers one-to-one online support for families in the UK and around the world where young people up to the age of 18 (or 25 if there is a secondary diagnosis) are using harmful behaviour directed towards their parents. A combination of approaches is used according to the situation of each family. The length of support is determined by the family’s needs. Funded and non-funded spaces available. Advice also available for professionals.
PEGS A range of different services for parents including peer support, advocacy, support programmes and one-to-one consultations. Delivered across the country online.
Family Lives Parentline, operated by Family Lives, offers live online chat, email support or a confidential helpline, for parents in England and Wales experiencing any form of stress or difficulty in their lives. (During the night, calls are redirected to the Samaritans helpline.)
Children 1st Telephone advice service and web chat for families in Scotland.
Parenting NI Leading parents’ helpline for families in Northern Ireland
HIJK (Help is Just Knowledge) An organisation offering a (paid for) 12 week web-based Advanced Parenting Skills programme based around the book Parenting a Violent Child
Substance use issues
Adfam Families with young people using drugs or alcohol, who are also violent or abusive, may be able to access support through groups known to Adfam. Since 2017, Adfam also offer a Befriending Service, whereby parents are supported by peer volunteers – in person, by phone or email. The Befrienders have personal experience of violence and abuse from their children. The service can be accessed here.
Adoption, Fostering, Special Guardianship and Kinship Care
PAC-UK Advice and support for adopters including children’s violence and abuse.
Adoption UK Phone and peer support for adoptive families.
Adoption UK (Wales) Support groups, training and call-backs, based on NVR, for adoptive families in Wales facing challenging behaviour or child to parent violence.
Family Futures UK New live online training to help with managing child to parent violence and aggression – for adoptive parents, foster carers, kinship carers, special guardians & relatives of care experienced children (specific dates)
POTATO (Parents of traumatised adopted teens organisation) A membership organisation for adopters living in the UK. Supports families with adopted children up into early adulthood. Peer support, advice, expertise, signposting.
The Child Psychology Service Working nationally online, supporting parents of children and young people up to the age of 25, typically funded by ASF. Uses NVR and DDP.
Yvonne Newbold Facebook group offering advice and support to families of children with SEND. Regular online training events organised.
FASD Hub Scotland Telephone and email helplines for those parenting or caring for a child with FASD or Prenatal Alcohol Exposure.
SPECIALIST CHILD TO PARENT VIOLENCE PROGRAMME PROVIDERS
Respect offer the RYPP programme in a growing number of locations. You can find out more about the programme itself, and a list of agencies offering the RYPP on the Respect website.
Who’s in Charge? is a programme supporting parents of young people using harmful behaviour, or out of parental control. The four-month programme for parents follows a manual developed by Eddie Gallagher, and uses a combination of therapeutic and knowledge-based approaches including solution focused and narrative work and CBT; aiming to restore self-confidence and authority in the parent, a healthier parent-child relationship and helps to eliminate child to parent violence. There is more information about the programme, and a map of providers on the Who’s in Charge? website.
Non Violent Resistance (NVR) offers a new way of relating as a family, with support and training offered by a growing number of individuals and agencies. More details available below and on the Mapping Project. Families in Ireland can find a map of agencies offering Non Violent Resistance training on the NVR Ireland website.
THE MAPPING PROJECT
Since 2015 work has been going on to map specialist support around Britain, for families living with child to parent violence and abuse. The Map is updated as often as possible and new information will be added as it becomes available.
While every effort is made to check out the services listed, please note that some agencies may have been forced to change their service offer since the map was compiled; and inclusion in this directory does not in any way imply endorsement of the service.
CLICK HERE TO BE TAKEN TO A VISUAL DIRECTORY. You will be directed to a page that looks like this …
You can use the Directory tab at the top of the page, or click over the area you are interested in on the map itself to be shown more details of services offered.
Other services include:
Parents of Children with Conduct Disorder. A closed Facebook group which offers support to families around the world, many of whom experience violence and abuse on a regular basis.
There are an increasing number of organisations and individual specialists and therapists offering support via websites or personal contact. They may or may not be tied to a particular geographical location. Included among these are:
Kelly Cox Parenting coaching, support and training.
New Leaf NVR Service offered worldwide to families experiencing child to parent violence.
Adapt Scotland offer trauma and attachment based mentoring and therapeutic work for foster and adoptive families, and for professionals.
Parenting Northern Ireland offer the NVR programme: Walking on Eggshells. Programmes run in Belfast, Derry City and Portadown. Call free PNI Regional Helpline 08088010722 to hear more.
Within Ireland, a number of agencies offer programmes for parents in using Non Violent Resistance. You can find out more about this via the NVR Ireland website.
LCT Services offer one to one and group counselling for parents experiencing child to parent violence and abuse.
SERVICES ELSEWHERE AROUND THE WORLD
AUSTRALIA: Information can be found on Eddie Gallagher’s website about Who’s in Charge? groups and other programmes.
Anglicare Victoria offer the Breaking the Cycle programme.
Berry Street in NorthEast Melbourne offer the TARA programme.
The State of Victoria has recently made more funding available to run services for families in three areas: Bayside Peninsula, Barwon and Mallee, through The Orange Door.
USA: The Step Up programme has been running very successfully now for many years, initially in Seattle, but now in other states. Information on the King Country website. More information about services in Illinois here. In Florida, a number of separate groups of people have been involved in developing services. See The Morning After Centre, Breaking the Cycle Consulting. Families in Multnomah County, Oregon may be able to access help via the FUSE program.
CANADA: Envision Counselling and Support Centre has four centres in Southeast Saskatchewan. They have a page of information about Parent Abuse on their website, and may be able to offer direct support.
Adopt4Life are developing support for permanence families in the Ontario area experiencing harmful behaviour from their child.
MALTA: Agenzija Appogg offers support to families experiencing violence and abuse from their children.
SINGAPORE: PAVE is Singapore’s family violence specialist centre. They have experience in supporting families experiencing adolescent to parent violence.