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by | October 11, 2024 · 9:09 am

CPV: The podcast special

How do you consume your podcasts?

On the way to work on the train? Walking the dog? While you’re doing the ironing? Or do you find a quiet half hour to focus solely on the content? However you find the time, there are some great podcasts out the at the moment, focussing either specifically on children using harmful behaviour towards parents – CPV – or on different approaches to working with families to bring about a more healthy and hopeful life. These may be directed first and foremost towards professionals – offering guidance for work with families, or they may offer tips and strategies directly to those affected. Whatever you are looking for, they all remind us that this is something that is more prevalent than we might have imagined previously, but that there is hope when you find the right people who know their stuff!

By no means a definitive list, but here is a selection of some of the top podcasts regarding CPV.

The Adoption and Fostering podcast is now in its 9th year, with nearly 200 episodes in the library. Al Coates and Scott Casson-Rennie discuss a range of issues related to contemporary adoption and fostering, often with special guests. Many of the episodes touch on children’s aggressive behaviour towards parents and carers. A fair number focus on this issue specifically. While this is labelled as adoption and fostering, many in other fields will find topics of relevance.

Capa First Response launched Series 1 of their podcasts in early 2024 and already have a second series ready to go. Series 1 features conversations between founder Jane Griffiths, Senior Practitioner Matt Rider, and patron Helen Bonnick, and touched on more general issues regarding child to parent violence and abuse which come up frequently in discussion, while the next episodes will address more specific topics such as neurodiversity. There is a third series in the planning stage.

The NVR podcast is aimed both at professionals and families, with experts in the field discussing strategies, the rationale behind this way of working, and case studies amongst other things. Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) has a proven track record for work with families who have experienced trauma, and looks at ways to de-escalate a situation and build a supportive network around the family. Peter Jakob, Shila Desai, Jill Lubienski and Rachael Aylmer chat together and bring in special guests. The applications are broad, but again, many will touch on families where children are using violence and aggression, or where there are similar overlapping issues.

Sarah Fisher is an NVR practitioner who developed Connective Family, a practice supporting families where children are exhibiting challenging behaviour. Her podcasts are often shorter than others but full of down to earth advice and quick tips for busy families.

Interwoven Connections is a Canadian Organisation supporting ‘the tapestry of families and relationships formed through adoption, kinship and customary care’, particularly where children are using harmful behaviours towards parents and carers. They have a library of resources for parents including webinars and podcasts.

There are of course many other resources as well as these listed. You will find some listed on the Sound and Vision page, but I would also invite comments if you have suggestions of other relevant podcasts which have been helpful to you and which you can recommend to others on this subject!

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by | May 2, 2023 · 8:58 am

CPVA Community Networking

This feels like something I’ve been banging on about since forever! Suggesting that individuals and organisations link up with each other to share knowledge and build capacity, to encourage each other and find strength in collaboration. Some organisations have a ready-made network through the particular programme they offer, for instance Who’s in Charge? or RYPP; some have built links across disciplines within their authority, such as the networking events run by Capa; others have contacted colleagues in the neighbouring boroughs or from friendships built at conferences. We saw the benefits at first hand during lockdown, when a number of events were held on line to keep people enthused and inspired. This seems particularly valuable, working in a field which remains poorly understood in some areas, and indeed, where reflective – and effective – supervision may be difficult to access.

In this spirit, I invite you to read the following letter, from Lou Mason, founder of the Sunflower Network and the Sunflower Hub. Lou and I spoke a while back after we were introduced, and I offered her this space to talk about the work she does and the opportunities offered by her organisation.

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by | March 30, 2023 · 11:38 am

Innovation, Collaboration and Good Practice in work with CAPVA

I arrived home late last night from the 1st Domestic Abuse Commissioner’s Festival of Practice, exhausted but buzzing!

The Festival brought together those working in statutory agencies at the frontline or in decision-making or commissioning capacities in relation to domestic abuse, those working in the domestic abuse specialist sector, and very importantly, survivors of abuse who have such an important role to play in developing responses in this field. There was consideration of progress since the Domestic Abuse Act came into law, and the launch of the DAC Strategic Plan.

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by | December 21, 2021 · 1:54 pm

Some seasonal thoughts

We* are all feeling a little emotional at the moment (covid, Strictly Come Dancing final, new grand daughter, Christmas songs on the radio), so I might be forgiven for maybe shedding a tear when I read the letter from Nikki Rutter to her co-researchers, published in entanglements. Please read it yourself – I won’t try to comment on it.

The last year has seen incredible advances in many ways in people talking about child to parent violence and abuse, in media coverage, in government funding for the development of support, and in the publication of new research. But the months of covid have, we know, also been difficult beyond our imagination for those living with this as part of their daily lives. This knowledge MUST temper our celebrations. And it should also sharpen our determination to listen to your voices, to learn from you and to hear what works, what makes things worse, what brings hope and what makes you angry or despairing. That should be our new year resolution if we make them, and that will be my hope for the next year of writing.

In the meantime, I was going to write something fairly bland and dry about opening hours over the holiday. I’ll just leave you with these links to organisations offering support at this time. Wishing you peace, and hope for 2022.

Capa First Response

PEGS

Family Lives

Young Minds

Samaritans

* Royal we, meaning me, obviously!

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by | September 18, 2021 · 11:50 am

Practitioners’ Networks

It’s always encouraging to be able to share with peers, to hear of new developments and learning, swap tips and good practice, and offer advice and ideas when things get tricky. In a relatively new area such as Child to Parent Violence and Abuse we are all learning, and so opportunities to hear from others involved in similar work, whether through formal learning or through less formal sharing and discussion are much appreciated and sought after!

There are 2 such opportunities coming up:

Family Based Solutions instituted a professionals’ network during lockdown, and their next session is on October 18th. More details here.

If you work in Sussex and can’t wait that long there is a newly established Sussex Child to Parent Abuse Network, a shared venture between The Rita Project and Capa First Response, which has its inaugural meeting on December 9th*, supporting professionals working with families across the county. More information and booking here.

Please do make use of these opportunities, and also check out the Directory to see if there are other agencies near where you are based, to promote further opportunities to learn and grow together. I am always happy to post announcements such as these, so let me know if there are other similar networks out there!

*Please note change of date from that originally posted.

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by | April 6, 2021 · 10:44 am

Raising Funds to support the work #CPV

One of the hazards of seeing a need and responding to it is the constant need to raise funds to support the work. Grants may be available, but many organisations also adopt innovative and creative means. Family Based Solutions in Enfield come to mind with their Christmas single!

I recently received a request from Jane Griffiths of Capa First Response to highlight her planned sponsored walk – and I am pleased to advertise it here:

SPONSORED WALK TO RAISE AWARENESS OF CHILD TO PARENT ABUSE

Capa First Response CIC (Capa) is an online support resource for families and professionals. Capa works with the whole family, offering support and strategies to look at ways to communicate positively and repair fractured relationships, leading to reduced violence and abuse in the home. 

Since setting up in May 2020 Capa has supported over 250 families and professionals seeking support and advice, through our training, supervision, 121’s and advice and support sessions. 

To raise awareness of this issue and funds to continue the free services we offer, Jane the founder of Capa is completing a virtual sponsored walk. 

“The first parent who contacted Capa almost a year ago  lived in Powys, Wales and the first professional to contact me was from Kent, that is a distance of 197 miles. I decided I would walk this distance to help raise awareness and funds. I can’t physically walk between the two due to restrictions so instead I will be walking around my home county East Sussex. Starting on the 1st May I plan to walk almost 200 miles by the end of the month”. 

Jane is looking to reach a target of £5,000 which will enable Capa to deliver 50 FREE advice and support sessions and 50 FREE 121 sessions to families.

“It is estimated that up to 3% of families in the UK are impacted by child to parent abuse, the biggest plea I hear from parents is tell me ‘I am not alone’.

I set up Capa to support anyone , anywhere impacted by this issue including children, adolescents, parents, carers and professionals unsure of how or were  to find help”. 

You can help by donating what you can at:

https://www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/jane-griffiths-2

Or walk with Jane.

You can choose to walk a few miles or the whole distance and anything in between, email Capa for information on how you can walk to raise awareness.

info@capafirstresponse.org

Your donations can make a huge difference to families lives

‘I contacted you in February and you were a saviour, when I needed to nip my daughter’s behaviour in the bud before it got worse. I wanted to say thank you and say how much you helped me and how understanding you were. Just those 3 sessions helped me understand how I could help my daughter. It’s still working and my daughter is now back in school. Thankyou’. 

(Parent accessing advice and support sessions)

‘I had an argument with my mum this week, it didn’t turn violent though I went to my room and tried to stay away’. (14 yr old accessing 121 support) 

For more information about Capa First Response CIC visit 

www.capafirstresponse.org

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by | January 14, 2021 · 12:36 pm

A New Documentary about #CPVA

Capa First Response, a support and advice organisation helping families and professionals impacted by child to parent abuse, has recently been in talks with a production company to produce a documentary about child to parent violence and abuse.

This project wants to hear from any families willing to share their stories around this issue, in particular any families where the behaviour is now historic and your relationship with your child has improved. We are also looking to speak with families where the behaviour is ongoing and you would be willing to talk about this. The project is not trying to recreate a fly on the wall documentary but  look at why this behaviour happens, how it presents itself, the difficulties parents face when it comes to friends, families and authorities.
If you are interested please email Capa UK for more information.

You will be aware that there have been a number of television programmes in recent years which have centred on children’s violence towards their parents. Some of these have been more sympathetic than others, largely depending on the aims of the producers and the “story” they have chosen to tell. Understandably there is great reluctance to expose painful and very personal situations in this way, and to potentially create a document that is there to view for the rest of your and your child’s life. Sometimes it is possible to remain anonymous, for the producers to use actors or for faces to be pixellated out. Sometimes producers are keen to show “actual families” to make the story “more convincing” – but it also depends on what the story is. I have personally met with researchers who are very aware of the issues and want to make something that is not sensationalist. Sometimes these initial ideas come to nothing, Sometimes they move forward slowly!

I will always advise parents to think very carefully before committing to anything like this. To ensure they have considered all the implications and that they have proper support in place. Nevertheless, it must be an individual decision and so I continue to publicise requests when they land in my in-tray, particularly if they come from people I know and trust.

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