- How do I choose between different training and trainers?
- Can I be sure this service will really help my family?
- What would make me choose to commission one programme rather than another?
All questions I have been asked over the years – some more recently than others – and all very valid!
How do you decide between different providers, now that the number of agencies offering training and provision around child to parent violence and abuse is growing at pace, and with so many programmes being designed from scratch? With so much offered online now, there is no longer the easy decision about travel time, though budget-size might still feature as a legitimate concern. And there remains limited research citing clear evidence of the long term effectiveness of different approaches.
Parents will be offering each other tips and guidance of course, but that relies on being part of an existing network, which is certainly not the case for all families. Up to now my website has offered listings of providers, and some notes on the philosophy behind different approaches, but I still give a disclaimer that I cannot guarantee the services offered. Is it time to resurrect the work on standards and accreditation which a group of us began back in 2015 and which I reported on at the time? Reading back, I see that the concerns have remained remarkably similar over that period!
The working group was chaired by members of Respect, who are well known for their work developing a Standard for work with adult perpetrators (and more recently with male victims). “The Respect Standard is a quality assurance framework for safe, effective, and survivor- focused work with perpetrators of domestic abuse.” This Standard has been reviewed by Nicole Westmarland and Zuzana Zilkova of CriVA at Durham University, and you can read the full report, published last week, here. Comments pointed to the importance of being assured that work was safe and effective, whether from the user or provider point of view, with stand-out words such as confidence, consistency and rigorous underlining the value of such a measure .
Work with families living with violence and abuse from children and young people surely deserves the same oversight and guarantees. It is important that all involved, whether as family members, as practitioners or in funding the provision of services, can be sure that what is on offer will go some way to mending relationships and not to causing further risk and harm.
If you are interested in developing such a standard, you are welcome to contact me to discuss it further.