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International perspectives on CAPVA

Since retiring last year, I have continued to maintain a close interest in “Holes” and particularly the
idea of themes being developed through a number of different posts. Both Adoption and
Mothering have been covered recently, and we move on now to an exploration of “International
perspectives on CAPVA.”
I have been looking through old notes and blog posts thinking about the way awareness of both
the issue and – importantly – the work of people in other places has grown over the years. When I
wrote my Masters dissertation in 2006 I had come across some limited research papers from
Europe and Australia, the United States and Canada, as well as Japan, and news reports from
elsewhere around the globe; but there was a sense of breaking new ground and of being met with
scepticism and of isolation.
Writing in 2013, (https://holesinthewall.co.uk/2013/05/29/child-to-parent-violence-insights-fromspain/ ) I was aware that the research body was already much larger and that Spain in particular
had a rich library of work and had hosted an international conference in 2011 following a real
growth of interest around the world.
Since then, personal contacts, conferences and Google Alerts have brought to my attention the
interest and awareness across all continents. International research groups have formed. And of
course not just research but the realisation that this is indeed a worldwide issue, not confined to a
particular profile of parent or society. A realisation that causes both great excitement and great
sadness.
Recent publications (all listed on the Reading List page if you would like to peruse them) come
from Central and South America, different countries in Africa, western and eastern Europe, Asia,
China, as well as Australia and New Zealand. Different ways of organising society, different
models of family, different global circumstances, different levels of provision … new questions,
new angles, new learning.
Each new insight adds a new piece to the jigsaw puzzle as we strive – as a common community –
to understand the issue and most importantly to bring hope and healing to families.
I look forward to reading the posts over the next weeks as this new theme develops and hope you
will too. Please do join in the conversation – write something for us, let us know about other work,
add your comments

Helen Bonnick

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Mothering, a series

This series on motherhood has been incredibly evocative.

Mothering is often as much an identity as it is a title, and there is something deeply painful when things go wrong. Sophie Cero’s work captures this agony beautifully in her PhD work; that living with filial harm can feel like being stuck in a horror film, particularly as a mother. Artistic representations of child-to-mother conflict, violence, abuse have been captured in so many ways that it feels deeply meaningful that Sophie was able to capture this in a variety of artistic modalities… capturing more than words alone ever could.

The mother as both “the victim and creator of the problem” is also something captured in Kia Abdullah’s “what happens in the dark”, reviewed by Sarah Griffiths. Centralising the mother and her relationships within the story, brought to the fore the complexity of what it is to be a woman; to have a career, a marriage, friendships, a child and so many experiences that remain untold. Many experiences remain hidden and “child to parent violence and abuse” feels very much hidden by a woman who is trying to be the best in every aspect of her life. An experience which resonates with many mothers, I am certain.

Mothers often have to advocate for themselves and their child(ren), and having allies in this area is important. That’s why we were so please to see the Oxford University piece of Professor Rachel Condry. Rachel has been a firm supporter of mothers navigating justice systems and safeguarding systems. Her work has been ground-breaking in recognising the challenges experienced by mothers, and how much of the harm they endure is due to the position they need to take up as caregiver. This role of ‘mother’ is often viewed by services as their primary identity, ignoring the complexity of women. This subsumed mothering identity was also explored by Abi Jones in her heart-wrenching blog highlighting how important it was for her to make sense of what was happening to her and her children when services ignored her desperate need for help.

We will soon come to the end of our Motherhood series, but it is clear this will not be the end of us talking about mothers.

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