SERVICES IN THE UK
Operated by Family Lives, offers live online chat, email support or a confidential helpline, for parents experiencing any form of stress or difficulty in their lives. (During the night, calls are redirected to the Samaritans helpline.)
Family Lives website here
telephone: 0808 800 2222
During 2015 a small mapping research project identified 40 separate specialist services around Britain. Some of these have been in existence for several years, some have just begun to run a pilot service with a view to expansion when funding is secured. For a range of reasons, some organisations chose not to be included on the map and so we know that there are others. You can read more about the project here and here, and you can access the map here. This screen shot gives a sense of where the services we located can be found.
Around the country different bodies such as the Youth Offending Service, Domestic Violence agencies, or Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service may have developed a specialist approach for families in their area as the need became evident and they can be a good place to start. Often there will be individuals within an agency with specialist knowledge, offering understanding even where there is no bespoke service available.
This information, and that on the list below, is by no means complete and will be added to as new information becomes available. While every effort is made to check out the services listed, please note that some agencies may have been forced to change their service offer since the map was compiled; and inclusion in this directory does not in any way imply endorsement of the service.
Other services include:
Families with young people using drugs or alcohol, who are also violent or abusive, may be able to access support through groups known to Adfam. Since 2017, Adfam also offer a Befriending Service, whereby parents are supported by peer volunteers – in person, by phone or email. The Befrienders have personal experience of violence and abuse from their children. The service can be accessed here.
Specialist adoption and fostering organisations have built up a knowledge and expertise in this area. Many offer training and some also offer direct help, e.g. PAC-UK, Adoption UK, Coram, Centre for Adoption Support , Family Futures
Young Minds offers a telephone support service for parents struggling to support a young person’s mental health needs, between the hours of 9.30am and 4.00pm, Monday to Friday.
There are an increasing number of individual specialists and therapists offering support via websites or personal contact, as they build up a knowledge base and experience over time. Some of these can be accessed via the blogroll of the right hand side of this page. Included among these are:
Sarah Fisher who uses an NVR approach.
Kelly Cox Parenting coaching, support and training.
Other local services include the following:
Parenting Special Children hope to run a regular Who’s in Charge? programme. This is an 8 week course providing a therapeutic approach for Berkshire parents/carers of children and young people (aged 8 – 16) who are violent or aggressive. Email and phone details on the PSC website.
CAMBRIDGESHIRE, ESSEX AND NORFOLK
Ormiston Families offer various packages of support , including the 10-week long Parental Presence programme, introducing the concept of Non Violent Resistance. The programme is intended for parents currently experiencing challenging, disruptive or violent behaviour by their children. Details here.
Getting On, a nine week course for families of children aged 11 to 15, run by Doncaster Children’s Services Trust, in partnership with the Youth Offending Service, and Stronger Families and Safer Communities initiatives. Information here.
S.P.O.T.T. (Support for parents of Troubled Teenagers) was set up in 2013 by two parents who were experiencing difficulties with their teens. The group meets monthly to offer mutual support, advice, information, and practical suggestions around self harm, anger or depression (amongst other issues). Information on the website.
YUVA, the young people’s branch of domestic abuse organisation DVIP, offer a programme, across London, for young people who have witnessed/experienced domestic violence and are enacting aggressive/abusive behaviour towards family members; and are willing to address their behaviour. This work is funded by the Buttle Trust (2017). The funding is for young people up to the age of 18 only, but to refer young people aged 18 – 25 please email YUVA for advice. Parents who are able to self-fund (approximately £40 a session) can also access their own support across London in the form of group and one to one sessions, but this work is not funded through Buttle.
LONDON BOROUGH OF REDBRIDGE
RAADA (Redbridge Action Against Domestic Abuse), Early Intervention Counselling Service
Individual and family counselling
telephone: 07702 288 470
Referrals from agencies or self referral. CAF needed.
Local Women’s Aid services run Choose to Change groups for young people aged 13 to 18.
Contact details are available on the NADA website (Northamptonshire Against Domestic Abuse)
Where the young person remains in the family home, there may be help available through Children’s Services or CAMHS.
Who’s in Charge? groups are running in Suffolk in a number of areas, including Ipswich. (see the Map for more detail)
For the Sudbury area, contact Cathy Press of Compassion: firstname.lastname@example.org
There are plans to establish groups in other areas. For up to date details contact Cathy Press via email@example.com or Carole Williams, Parenting Consultant and Coach, via firstname.lastname@example.org
These services have been identified as offering help to families in Wales. The information has been taken from the OxfordAPV site.
Area: North Wales (including: Wrexham, Flintshire, Denbighshire YOS, Save the Family, In2Change (substance misuse)
Provider: Protagoras Consultants
Programmes: Changing Places (Healthy Relationships and alternatives to violence)
Boundaries (Sexually Harmful Behaviour)
This programme is designed specifically for YP age 13-19) who are at risk of or are engaging in abuse or violence within their close relationships. The programme includes specific scenarios and application to CPV/APV examples. It also includes tandem workshops for parents in order to start to develop better communication and non abusive ways to manage conflict for the whole family.
Provider: Relate Cymru (part of the families first project in Conwy).
Programmes: Under development
Service: North Denbighshire Domestic Abuse Service
Programme: One to one work with children and young people who acknowledge they are abusive to their parents or others in a close relationship. The model used to support the young people is the Respect toolkit.
Service: Choose to Change (part of Relate Cymru)
Programme: The Changing Places programme
Service: Media Academy Cardiff
Programme: The Parallel lives programme
Summary of model of work used: Parallel Lives is a person centred programme that works with young people who have committed adolescent to parent violence and their family members in order to reduce the risk of further violence.
Service: Gwent Domestic Abuse Services
Programme: Service offers support to young people that are beginning to show controlling behaviour in their intimate relationships. This incorporates their own intimate relationships as well adolescent to parent violence.
Adapt Scotland offer trauma and attachment based mentoring and therapeutic work for foster and adoptive families, and for professionals.
Parenting Northern Ireland offer the NVR programme: Walking on Eggshells. Programmes run in Belfast, Derry City and Portadown. Call free PNI Regional Helpline 08088010722 to hear more.
Within Ireland, a number of agencies offer programmes for parents in using Non Violent resistance. You can find out more about this via the CPV Ireland website.
NON VIOLENT RESISTANCE
If you are particularly interested in accessing help using this approach, more information for the UK can be found on the Non Violent Resistance UK website, the NVR Practitioners Consortium, and also through LCT Services in Ireland.
SERVICES ELSEWHERE AROUND THE WORLD
ReNew is a 20 week counselling programme for mothers and adolescent sons in the Brisbane and Ipswich service areas, where there is previous experience of domestic violence, in order to prevent adolescent to mother violence and abuse.
This booklet from DVRCV has listings for organisations running support groups across the state of Victoria.
The State of Victoria has recently made more funding available to run services for families in three areas: Bayside Peninsula, Barwon and Mallee, through The Orange Door.
USA: The Step Up programme has been running very successfully now for many years, initially in Seattle, but now in other states. Information on the King Country website. In Florida, a number of separate groups of people have been involved in developing services. See The Morning After Centre, Breaking the Cycle Consulting.
CANADA: Envision Counselling and Support Centre has four centres in Southeast Saskatchewan. They have a page of information about Parent Abuse on their website, and may be able to offer direct support.